Jessi's Introduction

Hey everyone and welcome to our blog!

My name is Jessi and I am another fourth of this Busy and Blended parenting team! In starting this blog I hope we are able to share some really awesome stories of overcoming those uncomfortable moments in parenting when the parents have divorced but also share that not so fun stuff so some of you other divorced families can see you aren't alone! We probably have done all the crazy and terrible things too so join us on this ride as we still learn!

In this busy family there are 5 kids!! I am pretty sure that is like having a million! Of the 5 kiddos, 2 of them are mine from a previous marriage (Heather is their Bonus Momma, read her introduction post!). Bubba is 8 and Boo is 5. I got divorced in 2015 which at the time I thought was life ending, I'll be completely honest. Later that year I met my new husband and best friend and we just recently tied the knot this past September! We do not have any children together...YET but we will get there!

I am currently in Nursing School and will soon graduate! My husband works in retail so we all know that consists of crazy hours! When I am not in class or doing homework or you know catching up on all those crazy Housewife shows I am running around outside with the kids, going to a sporting event or school event of the kids, attempting to make a dinner the kids will actually eat, repeating to pick up your socks 100 times and just living the best wife and mom life I possibly can!

Our co-parenting adventure has not always been easy and it takes work every single day but we as a big blended family made the decision the kids deserved the best version of all 4 parents possible and we are going to give that to them at the best of our ability.

So buckle up, our confessions are coming!

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