"She was in there with him and not you?" I heard this comment a couple of times when we shared our kids had been baptized. You see, divorce is meant to divide. It's designed to come in and let every negative possible outcome come in. That's what the devil wants. He wants to come in and destroy any positive thought you had about your ex spouse and any positive thought you have about anything in the future that deals with that person. This is where our lifestyle has chosen to come in and flip the script. We decided divorce wouldn't divide our kids and what they see in us. I could steal every beautiful moment our kids walk through easily, or I can share those moments with everyone that loves them and show these babes that overcoming the odds is possible. By not stealing all joyous moments our kids aren't forced to choose a side and divide their love and attention. Instead they get to have everyone they love cheering them on with zero division in sight. I like t...
Hey everyone and welcome to our blog! My name is Jessi and I am another fourth of this Busy and Blended parenting team! In starting this blog I hope we are able to share some really awesome stories of overcoming those uncomfortable moments in parenting when the parents have divorced but also share that not so fun stuff so some of you other divorced families can see you aren't alone! We probably have done all the crazy and terrible things too so join us on this ride as we still learn! In this busy family there are 5 kids!! I am pretty sure that is like having a million! Of the 5 kiddos, 2 of them are mine from a previous marriage (Heather is their Bonus Momma, read her introduction post!). Bubba is 8 and Boo is 5. I got divorced in 2015 which at the time I thought was life ending, I'll be completely honest. Later that year I met my new husband and best friend and we just recently tied the knot this past September! We do not have any children together...YET but we will get ...
The New Wife Perspective (Heather) Mom-parison... I might have made that up but nonetheless I can honestly say I’m guilty of it. What is it? Well, it’s when a mom compares herself to another mom in hopes of making herself feel more secure but instead creates internal turmoil and anxiety leading to an extra glass of wine (or two - who’s counting) once the kids go to bed. Sound familiar? You’re not alone!! We’ve all been at the park and noticed the mom whose assets may not be God-given and is feeding her clean, well-behaved child kale chips and organic juice and then realized we’re in bleach-stained yoga pants and our kid is eating sand and wearing her shoes on the wrong feet asking for McDonald’s. But, what happens when the object of your mom-parison is the same person you’re sharing parenting duties with? It can get pretty ugly pretty quick! Being step-mom I can truly say I’ve never wanted to take Jessi’s place as mom to Bubba and Boo and I never will. But that didn’t s...
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