Heather's Intro

Welcome to Busy and Blended! 

I’m Heather - one fourth of this Busy and Blended parenting team. My goal in starting a blog is to confess our co-parenting struggles, share what we’ve learned, and learn from anyone else on this co-parenting journey! 

My family consists of my husband and 4, soon to be 5, kids: Bubba (8), Bear (7), Boo (5), Ham (3) and our newest addition, Lei is due in 3 weeks. We’re blessed beyond measure! 

Bubba and Boo are from my husband’s first marriage while Bear is from a previous relationship of mine. Ham and Lei are mine and my husband’s together.   We’re blended, busy, and oh so blessed!!

I’m a nurse at a local hospital, currently pursuing a doctoral degree in nursing, and otherwise I spend my time doing mom-life.  With 5 kids there's always a sporting event or activity that keeps us busy.  As a family we love to be on our boat on the river or doing anything outside. My husband and I met in 2015 and were married a year later with three kids and our fourth on the way.  We've never done things the traditional or easy way and wouldn't change it for the world. When we met we both came with "baggage" and red flags that should have made us run in the opposite direction but instead did the opposite.  Part of that "baggage" included previous partners and kids who are now part of our blended and extended family.

It’s not always been rainbows and butterflies in our co-parenting world but here we are on our 5th year of this adventure and I’ve learned a lot about myself and my family that I’m excited to share.  In those 5 years has been one divorce, two marriages, two more kids, custody changes, health issues, and countless heated arguments.  Also within those 5 years has been shared parenting, compromise, laughs, prayers, a support system, combined holidays, birthdays, and events, and more positive changes in our kids than I could have ever imagined when we started this journey.

 It's not perfect...but it's ours 


--Heather

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