Busy and Blended

When Jessi and I started talking about doing a series on our top 10 “tips” on co-parenting it took me a while to put together my half of the list. 📝 🤔 I thought about our entire co-parenting journey from beginning to end... the good, the bad, and the ugly. . What I realized on my trip down memory lane was that those memories that are in “the ugly” category didn’t make me cringe anymore. They didn’t evoke anger. They didn’t make me want to re-hash those events with Jessi. They didn’t create any emotional at all, really and then the light bulb turned on 💡 . . Forgiveness I had forgiven Jessi I had forgiven Jordan I had forgiven myself I had forgiven the situation . . There was a time when a friend innocently asking how things were going with the kids’ mom would lead me on a trip reliving each transgression and triggering all the emotions.  . Anger. Hurt. Sadness. Regret. Vengeance. Fear. Pain. . It triggered me to have those strong emotions again and woul...

My first tip for this series I definitely thought needed to be the thing I was the worst at...communication!!  Most people aren’t effective communicators when it’s something emotional to them, am I right or what? We don’t say what we mean, we dance around the topic, we word vomit, we explode when maybe all we mean is to have an effective convo.  Me personally, when I feel attacked in a conversation, I will attack right back and I will make sure my attack is another level of crazy you can’t match back 💣💣 Am I still like this today, not really. I actually have a hard time getting super angry in conversation 🙈🙈.  But, despite the emotion you have, you have to talk to the other co-parents! I know, I know, I just mentioned the unspeakable... you HAVE to figure out a way to talk.  What worked for us, at first Jordan and I had to stop being the ones who mainly talked. We still had the emotion fresh in our minds and we knew where and when to jab at each...

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Jessi's Perspective:  If I had a penny for every time someone made the comment to me, “you let your kids call her mommy”, I could have retired on a yacht in Fiji at the age of 27. Seriously, I am not even exaggerating.   People and their opinions, never get old right? (insert eye roll). I can tell you exactly where I was standing and what time of day it was the day Heather told me that Boo has started calling her “mommy”. I can honestly tell you in that moment I wanted to scream at Jordan as to how he could allow this to happen, how could he allow betrayal to the mother of his children to happen,   and what was he going to do to fix it. It was obviously his fault right? Like he forced our 2 year to call her that, I just knew it! He wanted me replaced, he hated me and he wanted the kids to love Heather more than me. Come on divorced mommas, I know you’ve told yourself that same sentence to yourself over and over again in different occasions throughout your di...